Even a terrible writing group can spur you to write more. But having sampled many groups over the years, here are some real problem areas. Even a good group can drift into these problems from time to time.
(tongue in cheek)
Unwillingness to be critical. You could read the telephone directory and get a chorus of ‘Oh, that’s lovely.’ If people won’t or can’t give constructive feedback, just buy a dog instead. Dogs give unconditional approval and you can think about story ideas when walking them.
Ignorance. The one person who sold a short story once (to Wee Scottish Fluff) dominates discussion of the market, even when they are wildly wrong. There’s uncritical recycling of unattributed stuff. Spreading myths about writing, agenting, self-publishing when clear, reliable and disinterested information is available.
Lack of ambition. No-one talks about personal goals, or cares if you are meeting yours. After a while you realise people don’t act on feedback. But ambition should be personally decided and owned. To me, ‘I just want to finish this memoir for my grandkids’ is as worthy an ambition as ‘I want to win the Booker.’
Poor discipline. The loudest voice dominates. People are interrupted. The first to leap in sets the tone of the subsequent discussion, no matter how ill-considered their comments. People talk about the content of the writing, not the writing.
Brutality. People are destructive, personal, and unpleasant in their comments. Maybe they are frightened of new people, or worried other people are better than they are, or they are just horrible people. They don’t understand the difference between ‘I’m sorry, for me this paragraph came across as racist’ – about the writing -and ‘You are a racist’.
Mine is the One True Way-ism. People should offer freely what worked for them and what didn’t, but step back if you are doing it differently. In turn, be open minded about what they say works for them.
Unsafe. Some groups are bigoted, or unwilling to protect individuals from inappropriate comments or readings. The group has no clear rules about what can be read, and any necessary warnings. Your working assumption must be if you read about sexual violence, at least one person in the room has direct personal experience. In here I throw the usual unfortunate dynamics: men talk more than women, and interrupt more. Regulars may dominate newcomers.